Bright Side of the Road

Hi.

I know there’s a bright side of the road—I can see it and sometimes even reach it briefly. Utilizing the amazing skills of resilience that I learned from my late husband, guitarist Pete Huttlinger, I am working through the grief of losing him.

All in reflection

The Bathroom Blinds

Feb 1

Feb 1 The Bathroom Blinds

Erin Huttlinger

It’s strange how certain things have burned into my memory like a bright light burns into your retina. The residual effect just lingers.

The Joy Gap (revisited)

Dec 28

Dec 28 The Joy Gap (revisited)

Erin Huttlinger

Okay, here it is. The answer to the question everyone has been asking me… “How are your holidays going?”

Dec 13

Dec 13 Found Things

Erin Huttlinger

I’m consciously aware that I can make the choice to either go downhill emotionally at this point, or I can feel a huge amount of gratitude

Nov 30

Nov 30 Thanksgiving

Erin Huttlinger

This year I can think clearly enough, for long enough, to find gratitude.

On The Other Foot

Nov 15

Nov 15 On The Other Foot

Erin Huttlinger

reflection, interpersonal

As needed–he was the patient, I was the caregiver. Then one day, everything reversed

The Guessing Game

Oct 26

Oct 26 The Guessing Game

Erin Huttlinger

Then, there are the heavier questions. Not just the ones that would be convenient to have the answer for, but the ones that I lose sleep over

Oct 19

Oct 19 Reflecting

Erin Huttlinger

Many people ask me if writing is cathartic. I’m still not clear on that, but I do know that the feedback that I have been given is hugely cathartic.

Oct 12

Oct 12 Vows

Erin Huttlinger

They weren’t performance art for a captive audience. They were what we wanted to promise each other.

Oct 4

Oct 4 Compounding

Erin Huttlinger

I think to myself “Will this NEVER end?” Answer: “NO, get used to it.”

Working Backward

Sep 28

Sep 28 Working Backward

Erin Huttlinger

identity, reflection

I’m generally really good at working backwards, but now I’m at a loss.

Sep 20

Sep 20 Belief

Erin Huttlinger

A belief creates only one option for an outcome–Success

Aug 23

Aug 23 Conversations

Erin Huttlinger

There’s a different kind of conversation a person has with a spouse

Socks on the Floor

Aug 9

Aug 9 Socks on the Floor

Erin Huttlinger

You don’t have to be sick, or 45, or on a second marriage. Life is always too short.

Aug 2

Aug 2 Again

Erin Huttlinger

It often feels like Groundhog Day, except that things don’t improve each time.

Jul 12

Jul 12 Bada Bing!

Erin Huttlinger

Gone are the days of light romantic comedies. No more Meg & Tom, Woody & Diane, Robert Redford & anybody.

Jun 14

Jun 14 Trinkets

Erin Huttlinger

A lot of my memories are prompted by trinkets–small things I’ve tossed in my backpack over the years while Pete and I were on the road.

“Focus on The Things You CAN Do”

Jun 7

Jun 7 “Focus on The Things You CAN Do”

Erin Huttlinger

I began to ponder all the challenges of my work and the lengthy list of goals I have not yet reached, but then I thought of the things I have accomplished.

Three Steps Back

Apr 27

Apr 27 Three Steps Back

Erin Huttlinger

I long for the downtime of the weekends, but I haven't been enjoying that space or quiet time

Apr 20

Apr 20 "Oh Lucy!"

Erin Huttlinger

There wasn't one instance when I walked into a room and he didn't smile